Don’t you love being right? It feels so good. It is kind of a rush. That’s why Jeopardy has been going so strong for so long. Although for me watching Jeopardy is terrible because I only get two or three right, I’m pretty sure Alex has been rigging it for years. When I was little, my dad would play logic games with me all the time. It was frustrating for a while, but eventually, I caught on and it taught me how to win most arguments even if I didn’t have a clue what I was talking about. I loved essay questions when I was in school because I could make it SOUND like I was right.

But you know what I’ve noticed? You can be right and be wrong.

I know that sounds weird, but think about it. When is being right wrong?
* If you tear someone down proving yourself right, you’re wrong.
* If you’re right, but separated from another person at the end of the conversation, you’re wrong.
* If you turn someone away from Jesus while proving your point, you’re wrong.

You see, there is a difference between being correct and being right. This is the problem I have with the way so many Christians have been treating others lately. It has to stop. “Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, Who is the head of His body, the church.” -Ephesians 4:15 I am not saying you shouldn’t speak the truth. But understand this: If you win the point but lose the person, you still lost. We should be building bridges, not burning them. How do we do that? Love. Not the mushy romantic love, and not the “I will never disagree with you” love (because that isn’t really love anyway). I’m talking about a love where when I disagree, I can talk to you individually, and at the end of that conversation you know I still love you.

Jesus spoke the truth to people. But the only people He spoke harshly to were the ones who thought they were better than everyone else. Ironically, the religious people. These were the ones who were supposed to be showing people the way to God, but instead were beating them down with rules and doctrine. Don’t be that guy. When Jesus spoke to a woman caught in adultery, He didn’t rip her up one side and down the other. He could have. He had that right. He would have been correct in telling her she was a terrible person and a sinner. But He didn’t. He told her that He didn’t condemn her, and then He told her to leave her life of sin.

I want to be correct, and so should you. Truth isn’t relative, no matter what people want us to believe. We should lead people to the truth, but we should do it in the context of a relationship. We speak the truth in love. Engage in conversation, but remember the ultimate goal isn’t to be right, it is to be more like Jesus.
What is the best way you’ve found to speak the truth in love? How have people spoken the truth in love to you?
Leave your thoughts in the comments below.
Always remember, we love you, we’re praying for you, and we’re in this together.


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