We want to give our kids every chance they can to succeed. What if we told you there is something you can do that will set them miles ahead of everyone else from the very beginning? It’s not cruel to others, but what you’re about to read is becoming less and less common in society today. The problem is, those who do this always seem to end up ahead. Ready for the secret?
Teach your kids personal freedom.
Your child is not a victim of their circumstance. Say that out loud. Then repeat it. Convince them of it and they will go far. Teach them that they are responsible for their successes and failure in their lives. Raising children who refuse to play the victim card will set them so far ahead of most in our culture today it will seem as if they have an unfair advantage. What does this have to do with personal freedom?
They have the freedom to succeed. Yes, we understand there are times that circumstances need to be fought against. But most of the time the person who is willing to work the hardest and does the best job will win the day. If your child learns this lesson early and applies it they will succeed. Personal freedom goes hand in hand with personal responsibility.
They also have the freedom to fail. It’s hard to allow your kids to fail, but you must allow them to do so. We’re not talking about failing in ways that will bring them physical harm. But allowing a child to fail will help them understand that there are consequences to the choices they make. For example, if you tell your child you are going to the park after they clean their room and they don’t clean it, don’t go to the park! Also, don’t clean the room for them! They’ll be upset when they don’t get to go to the park, but they will learn the power of choices. Yes they have the freedom to make the choices they want to make, but the must live with the consequences of those choices. This is a lesson many adults/young adults seem to have a hard time grasping. If your child understands this, they’ll do well.
Personal freedom brings freedom to succeed and freedom to fail. The key is the choices we make and the actions we take. It’s a difficult lesson to teach your children. It’s not a one-time lesson either. You’ll need to be consistent with them. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and watch them grow and mature. Give them more freedom as they mature, but keep reinforcing that you can’t separate freedom and responsibility. They are two sides of the same coin. If you’ll do these things, your children will have an unfair advantage over just about everyone else.
How do you teach your kids personal freedom?
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